Chapter Eight

Here comes chapter 8! The truth about the way you look. This chapter looks at an issue that most men do not want to talk with their wives about, because they are afraid of hurting their feelings. However, most men said it is in fact very important to them. Here are the main points...

Most men really want us to make an effort to look nice. We do NOT have to be tiny and perfect, we just have to try our best. (like we want our men to try to be romantic... it doesn't have to be perfect, we just want them to try!)

Men feel loved if we try to look nice for them. They feel unloved if we don't.

Men are drawn to a woman who tries to look nice. They need to see that we care about keeping their attention on us, and off of other women.

Men want to be proud of their wife's appearance in front of others. This includes both how she looks and how she behaves... how confident she is.

Most men would do whatever it takes (money, time, watching the kids, etc.) to help his wife make this effort.

 

What can you do to best support your husband?

Be willing to try your best to keep in shape and to look nice for him (and to help him keep his eyes on you instead of others)

Ask God for help, if you need it. Pray about it until you have peace.

If you feel led to make some changes, tell your husband about what you would like to do, and (if you need it) ask him if he will help

 

Here are some questions to think about...

1. Do you feel that a woman's appearance should matter to her husband? Why or why not?

2. Do you think God cares about your appearance? your health? Do you think God is pleased with how you take care of yourself?

3. Do you think your husband is happy with the effort you make to look nice? Are you?

 

The author encourages us NOT to talk with our husband about this chapter, since he most likely will not feel that it is possible to be honest without hurting your feelings. Just trust her that a HUGE majority of men in her surveys agreed that this was important, so most likely we can assume it is important to our man too.